{"id":1904,"date":"2013-10-31T03:23:11","date_gmt":"2013-10-31T10:23:11","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/?p=1904"},"modified":"2013-10-31T03:26:05","modified_gmt":"2013-10-31T10:26:05","slug":"notebook-on-cities-and-culture-s4e10-everybodys-a-foreigner-with-jordan-harbinger","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/?p=1904","title":{"rendered":"Notebook on Cities and Culture S4E10: Everybody’s a Foreigner with Jordan Harbinger"},"content":{"rendered":"

\"\"Colin Marshall sits down in Hollywood with lawyer turned social dynamics expert Jordan Harbinger<\/a>, co-host of the\u00a0Pickup Podcast<\/a><\/em>\u00a0and co-founder of\u00a0confidence education program\u00a0The Art of Charm<\/a>. They discuss how much time he spends explaining that he isn’t Tom Cruise from Magnolia<\/em>; how he conceives of The Art of Charm’s mission to teach confidence, which involves teaching emotional intelligence; whether and how our generation of men have come out especially socially inept; the still-strong number of pickup artist types wandering around Hollywood, and the equally strong number of low-self-esteem women with whom they match; the importance of asking oneself the question “What can I learn from this person?”, an entirely different question from “What can I get from this person?”; the\u00a0Pickup Podcast<\/em>‘s origin\u00a0in someone else’s basement, and how that developed into coaching and teaching; the skills of networking through his short law career, and how he realized they also applied to, say, meeting women; the day he found himself ostensibly studying for a law exam while remotely coaching a man for his imminent move from Africa to Denmark; knowing how to use Los Angeles, a land of “towns packed together for tax purposes,” especially its areas of dense “city life” like Hollywood and Koreatown; everyone in Los Angeles’ essential nature as a foreigner, and how that opens up the question, “Where are you from?”; his dull childhood in Troy, Michigan which led to an adolescence of conning and wiretapping, and then into Germany as an exchange student; language and travel as the engines of good social-habit development, and the advantages of becoming foreign and shifting your linguistic context; how “networking” became a dirty word; specificity, the enemy of relationships; the importance of people as vectors; and the sentiment “it’s all who you know \u2014 and thank God for that!”<\/p>\n

Download the interview\u00a0here as an MP3<\/a>\u00a0or on\u00a0iTunes<\/a>.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Colin Marshall sits down in Hollywood with lawyer turned social dynamics expert Jordan Harbinger, co-host of the\u00a0Pickup Podcast\u00a0and co-founder of\u00a0confidence education program\u00a0The Art of Charm. They discuss how much time he spends explaining that he isn’t Tom Cruise from Magnolia; how he conceives of The Art of Charm’s mission to teach confidence, which involves teaching […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[9,33],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1904","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-los-angeles","category-notebook-on-cities-and-culture"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1904","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1904"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1904\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1913,"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1904\/revisions\/1913"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1904"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1904"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"http:\/\/blog.colinmarshall.org\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1904"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}